[onewhippedpuppy]

Originally Posted by jyl

My current plan: I've told my wife that I want a meeting on Friday with T and the head of the middle school. My goals are (1) have T reassess her conclusion about The incident (2) have T cease making public negative statements about kids' character/behaviour without first hearing both sides of an incident and checking with the kid's advisor (3) repair the relationship between T and D enough for D to not hate the subject (4) otherwise, arrange for D to not take T's class next year, and to instead take private Saturday classes on the subject. (5) Not use the chat transcript as it was a private conversation between D and F (right now D has no problem with us monitoring her chats and emails, I'd not like to jeopardize that).

Comments, suggestions, should I just tell D to call it a life lesson and move on?

2. Teacher should not be making ANY comments in regards to how good/bad of a friend a kid is. Further, a teacher should not be making any negative comments about a student in the company of other students. Her behavior is unprofessional.

3/4. You're getting carried away because your daughter doesn't like her teacher. Welcome to life. What happens if your daughter doesn't like her boss someday? She needs to learn how to tough things out, even though she doesn't like it. You're giving her an easy way out, and teaching her a bad lesson in the process.

5. None of anyone's business and should not be shared.

If your daughter pulled someone's hair and that person complained, your daughter is in the wrong. It may be BS, but don't lose sight of that fact because it's YOUR daughter. However, the teacher's behavior (public mocking of daughter) is not appropriate.

No matter how much your daughter dislikes the teacher, make her get through it. She needs to learn how to deal with people she doesn't like, and sooner rather than later.