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Byron,

It is well said that we choose our friends but are stuck with relations.

In the long run the real hurt they did in lying to you and others was to themselves. You know what kind of man their Father was and were glad to know him. You also know what kind of man you are and I suspect are proud of that. Those things are what really count.

You put out the effort you did because you are the person you are. You were honoring your friend. That the family did not come up to your standards of behavior is not a mark against you.

I am sorry they disappointed you and hurt the memory of your friend in some way.

Best of luck to your other friends' wives.

Keep your own path.
Les