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Divorce is a result when one or a combination of the following (if all three are absent you are screwed!!) are absent in a relationship:
1) Communication
2) Intimacy
3) Money
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With my divorce it was intimacy and real communication that were a problem. Money and values is where we did great and also when the kids were younger we were good at creating a nice loving home for them and were on the same page with parenting. That's why we stayed in a relationship lacking intimacy for so long. I fault being married too young and not having good relationship role models in either my family or my ex wife's as primary causes.
My advice to my kids is, figure yourself out first, explore life, find your passion, then worry about sharing that life with someone. I was a much different person at 30 than 20 in terms of my priorities and interests.
I will likely get married again but not in a way that compromises who I want to be in the relationship or my own interests and passions.