In my case, I worked away from home a lot. The only times I could get involved was when she let the kids get out of hand and then she would call me to fix it. She treated me like crap but I stayed, she left eventually. I am mentally better off but after a divorce and a battle with cancer I am broker than broke and see no end in sight. I have dated but you know when it isn't right, it isn't worth it( Just waiting for miss right.