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Originally Posted by LubeMaster77
I know help is needed - she won't do it. Advice is nice but I also know that many of you guys would love to offer up a magic spell or silver bullet - there is none. I'm only sharing because I can't talk to anyone she knows about this or she will get real pissed. I still need to vent. PPOT is my drug of choice these days...
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You Lubby, YOURSELF for your own self needs some help. This is beyond you. You need support, if for nothing else just to help you read the fking cards as they are laid out. To separate the wheat from the chafe. To give you some clear cut direction.
Your wife also needs some help and support in dealing with the cards she now has to play. She needs to be around people who are facing the same problems she is facing. She needs to learn that her life ain't over, that what she is feeling is normal. We can all say yeah I can understand how you feel darling, but that ain't the truth. We do not understand, and we may go away feeling poor poor dear..she probably knows what you are doing and that makes her feel MORE useless and a burden.
Your children need you and your wife to be straight with the problems you face. They too could also use a bit of support to see their way clear of the BS
What kind of disaster will it take for you to capitulate.