we are hitting 21 years in a few days. one thing i realized years ago was that we were treating and talking to our freinds better than we talked to each other. we no longer do that. just one of many revelations that has made a difference over the years.
get her involved in soemthing. church is always a good place. it helped save our marriage back in the late 90's. we still go, bit we are just not as involved. i was spending about 20 hours a week there. i played guitar in the band and got burned out playing 3 times a week, with a double service on sunday.
i dont know your whole story, but it sounds like if something does not change, she is going to lose her family. once it gets to that place it is almost too late. that reality made me want to change habits and work harder at staying married.
our new marriage test, my mom is moving in.......yeah
i have always siad if you want to test a marriage, buy a business, i may have a new saying.