[onewhippedpuppy]

Mike, I fear that if you don't seek some form of help this situation might reach a boiling point. I admire your strength, but there's only so much one man can take. If you want this marriage and your family to have a future, you need to act. This situation is not going to resolve itself.

Also, as the others said, you have to put your kids first. This is a horrible situation for them, they deserve better.