[M.D. Holloway]

Originally Posted by madmmac

Mike, her life's previous dreams, goals and aspirations are disappearing while her vision is dwindling. What was once her life as a mother, wife, daughter, as she knew and experienced it, is rapidly going away. She is losing her independence, control, power, and just normal duties through no fault of her own.

Any personal faults that she may have had prior are only now being exaggerated at this time due to the situation she is now in.

Her mind and hearing are in overdrive. Her head is in chaos at this time. Over analyzing, preoccupied with with minute and mundane things. Churning them over and over again in her minds eye. Her minds eye is the only vision that she has left.

Many of the things that she once had, did, or aspired to do or be, are now gone as the darkness envelops her.

She can feel your touch and the force with which it is given. Simple footsteps, whether stomped loudly or tread softly will be analyzed and interpreted by her minds eye. She can't see your smile, the gleam in your eye or the pride you have for her. You will have to voice those.

She can hear your voice and the inflections in it. She is more a tuned to it now and will become even more aware as her darkness progresses.

It is going to be tough.

There are two things that only you have total control of, that is your perception and attitude towards anything and everything. Those two are yours and yours only.

Hold her, talk to her in a calm, soothing voice. Reassure her. Give her massages. Treat her like you did when you first fell in love with her. That person is still there, you just can't see her right now.

I wish your family the strength, wisdom and love that it will take to get through these times.

so true, she can pick up on the smallest of differences that we all have when we lie or are mad or how ever we are feeling. We do give off all sorts of sub-signals that go beyond the visual. I will keep that in mind.