[nynor]

well, my boss realized that she didn't have a single instance to justify 'being scared' of me, being that i had never raised my voice to her, said anything demeaning, or otherwise intimidated her. it turns out that she is mainly afraid of the job (she is new at respiratory therapy and it can be stressful) and her level of skill. this translated to fear and frustration and it got put on me because i did get pissed off at her one night, justifiably, for not doing her job. even then i didn't raise my voice or even criticize her.

so, being that she can't come up with an instance, nor has anyone witnessed anything but me having to sort out her mistakes, she was told to adjust her attitude and learn from me and to stop being a pansy and to trust her training. remarkably, her attitude did change immediately and she realized i was helping her out and she started communicating with me, instead of running away (literally) when i approached her or asked her questions.

i think the ah-ha moment was when she realized i hadn't told anyone about a mistake she made that could have been disastrous (but no harm was done, i chalked it up as a learning moment). plus, i made it clear that unless she talks to me about problems she is having with me, its all drama.

so, its all good and she really is doing a good job.