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Mike,
I have been sending good thoughts and prayers with out posting a reply every day.

Based on what you have posted I really believe that the kids need to be out of the situation, even for a short period of time.

Whether or not you get divorced is not relevant at this point. Your wife is, IMO, causing ireparable damage to your kids.

With school it will be difficult but they should be out of the house and away from the fighting. I can see the potential problems brewing already.

Will your wife feel abandoned? Probably but this has crossed the line in what anyone should have to live with.

I'm very sorry that this is such a mess in your life but I know that sometimes it IS best to be apart, for the sake of the kids.