Quote:
Originally Posted by Pat S
Mikester,
I've been feeling that too for some time. Started being really negative, angry, difficult. About a month ago, one of my mentors who noticed my downward spiral over the last 6 or so months gave me the book, "The Energy Bus"
The Energy Bus: 10 Rules to Fuel Your Life, Work, and Team with Positive Energy | by Jon Gordon
It's an easy read and entertaining, and I was able to relate to the story very easily. It really made me think about what was going on and how to improve my situation.
I still generally dislike my job, but I've applied several of the principles from the book, set some new goals, and I'm smiling and finding things to enjoy at work now.
Your results may vary, but I'm incredibly thankful that my mentor gave me this book and I found the book to be very helpful in helping me find a way to enjoy things more. |
I'll take a look at it man.
To be honest, my 'manager's manager' the one I mentioned earlier had made like he was pulling me aside 'as a friend' or mentor or something that he had heard some negative feedback regarding the way I was interacting with the people I work with.
Now; We had been given specific instructions on what we were supposed to be working on and what we weren't. Basically we were told to ask, is there a ticket or is a project? So, I've been doing that - now I get people complaining that I'm unapproachable and won't work on anything unless there is a ticket or its a project.
So I ask him if she can tell me where she heard that from or anything about the context. She won't tell me anything; so I tell her fine but it is difficult for me to adjust things if I don't know the context. Generally speaking I try to treat people I work with with respect and cooperation. There are a few however who have really either abused me or are so difficult that I cannot go the extra mile for them.
I asked my boss about it and he said that, yes he knew and that his manager (who i have been talking about) wanted him to put it in my review. This is the first time anyone that I am aware of has ever said anything even remotely negative about me. I felt betrayed, this person made like they were doing me a favor and really they were trying to torpedo me (in my eyes). We haven't had raises in over a year and this sort of thing could really torpedo that and any possibility of me getting the promotion my boss thinks I should get. I suppose if his manager wants to torpedo that - well, there isn't much stopping him. I didn't trust him before and I don't know at all.
Still, I was glad to get the feedback - I'll be more careful in my interactions.
Your impact on the people around you is more than you think.
In the few years I've been here the middle managers have moved around a bit so I hope I can wait this irritation out. This management structure is a little heavy on the managers - we could do with one less. I just hope it ends up being the right one...