So as a follow up to a previous thread that many of you have plenty to say about, I'll post a bit of a follow up. the original thread is here:
http://forums.pelicanparts.com/off-topic-discussions/486925-guys-i-think-i-found-one-7.html
To summarize, you can read my first post and the conclusion on the last page. At the end of that thread, about 3 months ago... things were going good.
For simplicity we'll call her C. C is very smart and, like me, loves to dig and thus using even just her first name on this board would easily lead her to finding this. Anyways..
I had finally expressed my thoughts to her and we were seemingly together for a while. Exclusive. She was wonderful and I really thought I had something.
Unfortunately, and this wasn't a surprise I knew it was coming, but she moved in September, taking up residence at a new university- she's working on her medical PhD, and that obviously takes up a lot of her time. Unfortunately we aren't able to see each other that often. As you all know I have rather intensive research of my own, I'm putting down 60 hours a week on.
I felt that she really wasn't ready for such a serious relationship at the same time- she's never dated on the regular, and I could sense that this could be trouble. Obviously our feelings for each other were there and she made that clear, but after talking to her friend of 10 years and major confidant, I confirmed my hypothesis. Friend noted that she's an extremely busy woman, working a job while attending, and thats all rather stressful. The friend made the comment that it's ridiculous how we are the same person and how yes, yes indeed we were perfect for each other... but time and fate just aren't on our side.
So that's how we get to today. I called and had a chat with her last night, both of us promising to see each other soon. It wasn't akward at all, we fell back into that good, great old conversation like we always do, finishing each other's sentences etc. It's just that underlying problem- that problem that we both know we're supposed to be more than 'buddies' but can't make it work.
I'm not going to sugar coat anything here either... I've had a far less meaningful yet far more physical 'relationship' with a local woman who I met at a bar a few weeks ago... I haven't hidden this from C, we're no longer in an exclusive relationship although we are not dating any others.
So, to footnote, after my last thread on the matter everything looked like roses but it actually didn't go well much longer after that.
Being bold and to the point got me the moment I needed with her last time, as posted about in the last thread. It's time I make an effort at this one again. I am really, really tired of short flings and one nighters. I never though I would say that, but I guess I'm just getting to that point......