[Vipergrün]

Maybe I'm just having a melancholy day, but my marriage is starting to take a toll on my day to day well-being. The constant arguing, the jabs, lack of intimacy, lack of common interests, poor communication, etc.

We have discussed separation, have tried counseling but probably need more.

The thought of not being in the same house as my kids breaks my heart. Simple things like tucking them in at night, helping with homework, etc. Especially hard during the holidays.

I've been divorced once before, but that was a hail mary from the beginning, with little to no chance of success.

My current wife and I have been together for 16 years. Its gotten to the point where we are both shutting down emotionally and things are becoming toxic.

The time and effort it would take to make things better would be tremendous.

Or do we cut our losses and go our own ways?

Thanks for letting me vent. I've been reading Lubemasters thread, but didnt want to hijack.