[Z-man]

+1 on what Dueller wrote.

Marriage counseling helps. It did with my relationship - helped me realize that often I had
the wrong (selfish) priorities.

Marriage encounter / enrichment weekends also helped my relationship with my wife - they help you get grounded in why you are married and how to take the marriage to the next level.

I've been married 16 years now, and am still falling in love with Kim, my wonderful wife.

If you love your wife, make it work. There is no easy fix - and tough times may be ahead for you and your wife -- but if you endure through it, coming out on the other side will make the relationship stronger. Don't give up, and hang tough.

As for compatability issues - sometimes you have to agree to disagree. There are plenty of differences between Kim and I - and often it is those differences that make our relationship WORK, not fail, believe it or not.

-Z-man.