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So you owe it to them, even at the expense of your happiness, to do everything possible to keep it together and working in a reasonably functional way, for their benefit.
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This is simply a bad oversimplification. At the expense of your happiness? Bull. Kids are just as bad off if not worse off in a home where parents don't get along, fight, don't care for each other, etc.
I stayed in my relationship way too long to the point where I was angry, bitter, lonely, etc. My kids have seen a huge difference in me becoming the much happier person I am today after we split up and my ex and I get along better than ever. If her life wasn't a f'up mess the kids would be happy as clams.
Yes, it's hard on them but in some situations it's for the best. I think it's harder for older kids who are very used to a routine, two parent household, all of that. My Fiance's son was 4 when they split and he doesn't know anything but his folks living apart and parenting him that way.
Every situation is different but the stereotypical response to stay together for the kids is a load of crap.