[on2wheels52]

Brad, am sorry to hear of your difficulity, 16 years together is a pretty serious investment of time. I'd suggest going to a third party for 'marriage counseling'. See what their take is on your situation. It didn't fix my first but it it helped with my perspective on what was going on.
Some locales still debate legalized gambling, I can't think of a bigger one than saying 'I do'. I hope all comes out ok for you.
Jim