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15 years married last month to my first wife and I still think marriage is a great institution. There were and are times when I become selfish and that is a problem for the marriage. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is love your wife when she is unlovable, but I find that it is the only way through the tough times.
We are both committed and neither of us fall for all this happiness crap. Sometimes we're happy and sometimes not, but "happiness" wasn't in the wedding vows. We have three kids that bring about a whole other dimension, challenges, and pride. Some things are worth the investment.
Now if it is truly toxic, adultery, or one party just wants out, there may be little left to save. It takes two to work it out. Your job is to love her and let her know it even when it seems wrong. Her job is to respect you no matter how flippin mad you are. If you both of keep that formula unconditionally it is amazing what you will overcome. A trip might be a great way to test the marriage.
Ever watch the film Fireproof? There is a spiritual connection in marriage to your wife.
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'72 911T 2,2S motor
'76 BMW 2002
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