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Nostatic I agree that there are situations where a split home can work. My point is that it is not the optimal situation. Is a split home better than one with both parents who cannot stand each other and use the kids against one another? Yes.
I guess I just don't get the "fundamentally flawed" thing. How fundamentally flawed can you be? People learn to love and respect each other all the time. Obviously both people in a marriage change and grow during the relationship. How does someone change so much that you no longer can find anything to love in them? If your wife is a manipulative beotch who verbally abuses you all the time...wasn't she that way when you were dating?
Everyone has flaws. My wife and I dated for 3 years prior to getting married. She often asked me how long we were going to have to date before I would decide whether she was the one I wanted to marry. I told her that I only was getting married once in my life so I was going to make sure she was the right one. I would rather spend 3 years dating up front than spend a lifetime in a marriage to the wrong person. Once we agreed to get married we both understood up front that this was a one way ticket.
I know most people think the same thing when they get married, but do they REALLY believe it? I think in today's world the answer is no. In the back of their minds they know they still have a way out. If it gets too tough they can just say they aren't happy anymore and move on. I think if people took marriage more seriously up front they wouldn't be so quick to get out of it.
Again all these comments are not made to anyone in particular, just talking in the more general societal sense.
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Rick
1984 911 coupe
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