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Originally Posted by nostatic
Speaking hypothetically of course, the answer to the last answer can be "yes." The reality is that people choose a mate based on a variety of criteria. To the extent that someone is screwed up psychologically, they will pick someone who scratches that itch. Where you run into a problem is when one person starts getting healthy, realizes the problem, and the other person doesn't or refuses to or can't change. At that point, does the person who has gotten healthy regress and go back to the old unhealthy person, suck it up and hang around "for the kids", or investigate alternatives?
I agree that many take the path of least resistance and aren't willing to do the work or admit their own part in the problem (and there are ALWAYS two sides to the problems). But in some cases, one spouse will do the work and the other won't. Or both will do the work and they come to realize that it just isn't right.
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Ok, well I guess there is the issue. I would say that someone who is screwed up psychologically shouldn't be getting married and having kids in the first place. I would say fix your psychological issues and THEN find a life partner.