Quote:
Originally Posted by Dottore
Tabs: Is your point that she is not suffering from an illness as such—but merely from deep grief? If so what's the difference if the symptoms are the same?
|
My grandma outlived her husband by 2 years, she was physically weak(much weaker then he was, he had bad stroke, never knew what hit him) when he was still alive, but happy and strongwilled,
but it went all downhill after he died. Her weakness was the heart.. and it got weaker and weaker... Some odd behaviour, but mostly explainable... mostly fear of being and dying alone.
And the worse it got, the more it pained me, and the more time i spent with grandma... Even when i was already overworked on the job, tired all the time...It was worth it.
Some people literally loose the will to live.
That's a psychological condition, but it will cause physical decline just the same.
So it suppose it's just as possible that she's given up mentally when her husband went, and instead of her heart, her physical decline is just an increased rate of dementia... Combined with the "giving up", things get even more difficult...
All in all, there's nothing anyone can do about it. That's life, and it's tough to deal with... But we for those we care about, there simply aren't any other acceptable alternatives.
For your own future memories, it will give you peace of mind to know you did what you could... When the going get's though, the tough get going.