[Dueller]

Lights went off for me as well. But, I ask myself almost the opposite question re: my marriage--did I fall in love with the passionate side and ignore my big head? Have I made a choice from the heart to the detriment of other needs and desires? Are we just too different in what we think a healthy marriage should be?

I don't have answers...hell, I can't even figure out what the questions are sometimes.

Maybe Snipe has it figured out....an attitude my brother seems to embrace. Be like a dog...eat when you're hungry, drink when you're thirsty, fuch when you're horny....don't try to analyze or overthink things so much.