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****Deep breath***** Wolfie, while you obviously are a good person and a great friend to this guy, you are big time enabling. He hasn't had to fend for himself, feed himself, provide for his own shelter, etc...just go on a binge when he wants to and have a soft, free place to land ...an alcoholic's wet dream.
If you care about this friend its time to get honest and tough. He ain't gonna like it. He's gonna blame you for renegging on the deal...he's gonna play the victim. AND ABSOLUTELY NONE OF IT IS YOUR FAULT. Other than your enabling....I know you mean well and you're trying to be supportive, but in so doing you're hurting his recovery more than helping. Its something you cannot fix...only he can.
You'll know when he's well into recovery when he comes and sincerely apologizes for taking advantage of your kindness (one of the 12 steps). Even if he quits drinking and doesn't come to this realization, he's nothing more than a dry drunk.
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Jim
1987 Carrera
2002 BMW 525ti
1997 Buell Cyclone cafe project
1998 Buell S1W: "Angriest motorcycle I've ever ridden."
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