[lm6y]

David, that was a huge step of confidence you took. Good on ya.

Last year I was diagnosed with depression. I lost a very special person in my life because of it. I didn't seek help until it was too late. I am not on any of the drugs for it, because they sometimes heighten the suicidal feelings I experience. I really don't need THAT side effect!

More to the point. Bill is on to something. When I feel the depression coming on, or feel a overly dark mood, I just stop, and do as Bill did. You CAN talk your way down. I do it everyday. Figure out what mantra works best for you. I have to tell myself that the feelings I feel aren't real, it's just the depression creeping in, and I'm not crazy.

If you explain this to your wife, and explain that you need some time to "get your head right" before, or during a fight I think you will see a huge difference.

Good luck, and let us know how it works. Maybe someone else will have another method to try. And yeah, this IS an amazing place.