[Oh Haha]

I went through the same thing after my divorce. I had "list" of what I wanted and what I wouldn't. We had no kids so it was easier for me but I stopped looking and then I met my wife.

If after a few dates it doesn't feel right, move on. You don't have to accept anyone's baggage just to have someone around.

I got very lucky when I met my 2nd wife. She was everything I was looking for in a companion. I wrote companion as that is all I was looking for. Just someone to do stuff with and hang out.