[LeeH]

Originally Posted by Chocaholic

On the other hand (a bit of devil's advocate here)....if I were in a situation as you described (SBX acting out over SO, confrontational, etc.), the last thing I would do is allow any situation to occur that could be viewed by her (or her counsel) as inappropriate.

I have a 10 y.o. also and do not/would not leave him alone for any period of time. 10 y.o. kids can do very, very stupid things when left unsupervised. Because she did the same, doesn't make it any better. We already know she's got issues.

So, although I question your judgement (and that of your SO), the advice above is spot on. Be respectful and take the high road. And...assuming this hiccup goes away, don't be so stupid next time around. One must wonder if there isn't another (valid) side to this story. The fact that after all this time you've not pursued legal separation or divorce...and you have a child stuck in the middle while you and your wife are seeing/doinking other people tells me there's a mutual problem here. Sorry for being harsh, but this is reality. It seems you and your wife (that's what she is after all), have put your own convenience ahead of the good of your child.

Your blanket statements are pretty judgemetal. All kids are different. I think it's up to the parent to make the call when it's ok to leave a child alone and for how long.