[Superman]

IT doesn't sound like a monumental problem. I mean, it's not like the wedding is scheduled for Saturday. You sound a bit like me in the sense that you don't feel terribly desperate or lonely or insecure. You're single, and that appears to be working for you. This lady friend....is not your wife. Bang her like a screen door and if her parenting advice is not welcome, tell her you're just fine with your current approach and don't need a coach. If she has a problem with your time and efforts toward your children, don't make her problem into your problem.

I know all this sounds trite and I'm not suggesting your concerns are unfounded. Quite the opposite. Stress is not as fun as it used to be, and there are people who should not be a source.