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Originally Posted by Superman
Dan, it looks like you are interested in this art form, and that means you will be learning. One of the most important things my momma told me is that getting good at something is as simple as liking it. If you like it, you will do it. Read about it. Watch it in practice. Practice yourself. I have walked this Earth with the certain knowledge that I will become good at the things I enjoy. Mom was correct.
I'll start you out with some ridiculously simple observations. First, as mentioned above, leaders do not lose their temper. In my world there are lots of meetings. Negotiations. Anger is a contest. The first one that loses their temper........loses.
Keep your mouth mostly shut. Study after study shows that peoples' perception of your intelligence level is inversely proportional to how much you speak. In meetings, I have noticed that the perfect posture is to lean back in your chair (if the chair leans back) and possibly move a couple of inches further from the table. Let everyone else do the talking. Once or twice during the meeting, lean forward........and ask a question. Then lean back again and shut up.
Be engaged. All the best comrades I know are busy, and hungry for more information, relationships, etc. Return ALL your phone calls. Look people in the eye. Be relaxed, but be interested.
Nod your head. Up and down as if saying "yes." When do do this while other talk, they will think you are listening. When you do this while you are talking, they will agree with you.
Do not be in a hurry. eaders are not people who intuitively know the right course of action.instead they are people who know how to gather enough information and consensus to identify the right course of action. Consensus is HUGELY important, since it gets others working in parallel and bought into the outcome.
Catch people doing stuff right. Praise works. Criticism does not.
When you catch people doing stuff right, and if you do this consistently, those people will think you have good judgement. Let me say that another way: When you tell people they are valuable and that their decisions are good and their methods are good......they will think you have good judgement. Ability to discern. works like a charm.
So does saying someone's name. Everyone's favorite word is their name.
Show up early. Seriously. Be the first one in the office each day. This intimidates the hell out of your co-workers. In a good way.
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I always knew you had some good sense...even though you are a Liberal...
You understand the principles...but it sounds like you read a manual instead of pounding out each principle in the cauldron and coming to the conclusion as an ingrained principle
where I disagree and know your off is in the "intuitive" part...the word intuition needs more definition than I am willing to give it at the moment. However that belies courage of conviction and as TABS has said the art of being influential is to do it without one knowing it is being done. To be able to shape and move the discussion in the direction of ones chosing.
Lincoln in my estimation belongs in the pantheon of world leaders, more so than any other American leader. Lincoln relied almost exclusively on that broadly interpreted word of intuition...emotion...
Just take a look at his reasoning for when he released the Emancipation Proclamation..Lincoln understood the motivations and sensibilities of men, his timing was almost impeccable. IT ALL CAME FROM THE CAULDRON that was his life..