I don't think there is a double standard when it comes to team orders - there is no standard. Ferrari clearly used them in Germany and that is part of why Alonso has his current lead. RBR may have used them earlier in the season, but certainly didn't use them yesterday.
Maybe it'll even out next race when Vettel takes out FA on lap 15 or so.
In his defense, I think Webber has been pretty calm and gracious the last couple races despite being under intense pressure. He wasn't pouting or throwing a hissy fit yesterday. And he totally owned up to his sloppy wreck in Korea.