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Originally Posted by bivenator
The girl was about 2 when adopted and she is chinese, so I suspect she knows. I am glad you chimed in Angela. I have always enjoyed your perspective.
I can understand the idea that it good to present that the family is permanent, however this contradicts the reality that the kid is facing. Its not permanent, as evidenced by the divorce. The love that the parents feel for the child should be shown endlessly but IMHO the maintaining of the appearance of family can give the kid false hope.
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Just no winning with relatives, is there? Might be time to start thinking about splitting the holiday up a bit. We do that in our family. Christmas Eve is spent with my side of the family. Christmas morning is spent with Steve's side - all done by about 11a.m. Rest of the day belongs to the people who live under this roof. There are so many silly behaviors and fractured marriages in the group that it really is better to keep them apart. Surprisingly good behavior when seperated, absolutely intolerable together.
As far as the tonsil-hockey couple goes, it's been my experience that when the behavior is THAT demonstrative, the relationship is usually short. If you do see them again and the same behavior exhibits, maybe you should bring an air horn! At least a squirt gun.
angela