[Porsche-O-Phile]

If you love someone, set them free...

Don't read into it too much - she did come to see you. Chances are she's just got a lot on her mind. And women (particularly driven and motivated career-oriented ones like she sounds to be) don't like to be possessed or doted over or marginalized by being made to feel like a trophy wife (or wife-to-be).

It sounds like she's a great person and will do very well in life. Respect her and her ambitions. She clearly has made time and space in her busy life and its ambitions for you, so don't get too pushy.

By the same token (and I hate to say this) she's probably also being realistic that she's about to head off to another corner of the world for a long time and who knows what will happen there. You have to accept the real possibility that it might not work out (most long distance relationships don't) or that she might run into someone else while over there. Or that you might. I'm guessing this is weighing on her a bit right now too and making attempts by you to get all touchy-feeley uninvited and not exactly what she's looking for right now.

I wish you the best, I really do. If it's meant to be, it'll be. If it's not, it won't. You have to realize that you're not completely in control of this situation though and although you can do what you can (call, e-mail, write, whatever) a relationship is a two-way street. If both parties aren't totally into it, it's not going to work.

Best to you. Go get your mind on something else for a while. I know it's got to suck right now with all the uncertainty. BTDT (a long time ago...)