[TechnoViking]

Crap. I need the PPOT wisdom. I'll try to keep this concise:

I'm 40, she's 33. I'm divorced for 2 years, she's in the middle of a messy divorce (so yes, technically, she's married but she is separated with her own place, etc.). She left her husband of 10 years. He's a bipolar, steroid-using psycho, and she got sick of the ups and downs. He cheated on her a number of times.

We met on line, I'm not the first guy she's dated or slept with since leaving her husband in about October of last year. She and I started dating in November, and we agreed to not see other people about 6 weeks ago. We have kids the same age, we have a ton in common and have had a blast hanging out, etc.

So anyway, I tell her a few nights ago that "I've fallen for her". The next morning she reads me a thing she got emailed about love. All about how you know you're in love, "in love" vs. loving someone, etc. So I figure the door is wide open...

I say it and then she says she has to emotionally move on the from the marriage, finish the divorce before she'll be ready to fall in love.

So I'm trying to get me head around this. She clearly does not want to lose me from he life given her actions and words over the last couple days. But...I can't help but think this isn't going to end well for me.

Anyone been in this situation?

Is is possible for a woman to prevent herself from falling in love, or is it just an excuse?
Should I cut bait?
If not, how long should I give her to come around?

I know I'm an idiot, and I went too fast so feel free to pile on as far as my stupidity here. Sorry, no pics.