I can see many people here experience the way you described, but my experience in my field was different. Let say if you are working in a fast pace environment such as a dot com, not making high dollars amount, and keep sitting there for years, people would think either you are lazy, or slow. But I understand that is totally difference if you are working in a family type of company/group. So maybe it depends on which environment your are in.
I used to jump around very often because that is the way to make more, sometimes a lot more, if you think you are good enough. If there is a counter offer, I would stay if I like the company. And I won't, if I already have problem with someone in the team. Many people I know were doing that too. But again, it depends on the environment and many other factors. In this reply, I only look into the salary since the topic is around offer and counter offer.
As for "childish and jealousy", I disagree. I don't think it is childish to ask for more if the person thinks he worths more. Who doesn't want to bring home more money? Of course he has to be reasonable. In fact, if he has higher offer, it prooves that he worths more. Jealousy? no, I don't understand what/who he jealous with? In fact, if someone else is having problem about he is getting a raise, then they are being jealous with him.
"the company should bend over backwards for this one person as if they're worth more than the rest of the team"
Sorry, I disagree too. In my experience, not everyone is making the same. In the same team, someone might make twice or even more than twice someone else does. Beside the education/degree, years of experience, type of experience, how you present at the interview, it also depend on how you bargain with the company when they make you the offer. I am usually not good at this.
Let give an example. Let say you are making $80k, just an example, and base on your ability, you should be making $120k and many of your friends in the same field and, doing the same thing, are making around $120k or so. After being with this company for several years, your salary has not changed. What would you do? If you like the company, would you just jump? Or would you keep making $80k and happy with it? No, I would ask for a review. If I asked and there is no change, I will send my resume out to see what happen. If there are companies who offer me $120k or so, I would either jump or show it to my supervision and ask (in a very nice way) to see if they agree. If they finally see that they are wrong, and counter offer, then what wrong? I think this act is very mature and not jealous with anyone at all.
You might think I am wrong, but I hope this is only a discussion. Everyone has his own different thinking.
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Originally Posted by Head416
Understandable. I think it was the impression that the person was playing games to get what they want, and maybe taking offense to the idea that the company should bend over backwards for this one person as if they're worth more than the rest of the team. Maybe childish, or based on jealousy. I don't know, I'm just reporting what happened. Bottom line is the individuals' status as part of the 'team' was compromised.
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