BINGO
This group hit the nail on the head on this topic, my only curse in life as far as I can tell. I am a neat freak and my wife is the opposite, not near as bad as her sisters but its been a constant stress for 30 some yrs
The pattern is she cleans it all up and then eventually I blow a fuse with the mess, repeat.
How many sweaters, shoes, clothes ,the killer, boxes of old magazines in basement, watering cans, etc etc
I love her to death, she has been a wonderful Mom to my 3 children, but.....
I guess its been my fault while the kids were being raised, life gets so hectic you overlook stuff because you have no time. The one day the kids are all gone and its just you and her.
This is the time when being married gets the hardest, one on one.
Yrs ago in our many moves once I had it and thru bags of cloth bolts out and felt good but guess what, months later she bought them back from the store and was exited about getting more of the same crap I thru out. I was had on the spot.
Its just maddening.