[mikester]

I emailed her. Whenever I call her she always sends it to voice mail anyway. I offered help.

Family is talking about the funeral and my Grandmother doesn't believe that it would be appropriate for my mom, my dad's ex-wife to be at the funeral.

While my parents were together, especially in the first 15 years of their 25 year marriage my grandfather was a better father to my mom than her father ever was. She loves him dearly. It'll be a small, probably mostly family only grave side funeral. No wake or anything like that, I'm just not sure what to tell my mom. My opinion is that she should do what she thinks is right for her.

My grandfather taught me a great deal about respect; I'm conflicted about whose feelings should be respected here. My parents have not seen or talked to each other in probably 10 years. Their parting was not amicable. Dad says he is fine if mom shows up. Mom wants to come but doesn't want to hurt anyone's feelings. She also wants to be there for her children and I believe she should be able to be there for them (me, my brother but are close to ma).

Seems lame.