[scottmandue]

A little back-story... met my now wife three years ago, I was 53 she was 46 (cradle robber!) her daughter was 15 at the time, they were two years living on their own one year divorced. She lives in Portland OR. I live in Lost Angeles, long story short we have decided to let the daughter finish high school up there (Beaverton) because she is 4.0 GPA doesn't drink, smoke, do drugs, or go out with boys.

Now before we got married we talked extensively about everything, sex, money, who would be responsible for what duties (and that we would live apart until the daughter went off to college) so we would have a solid foundation for marriage.

I post a few weeks ago about my step daughter... Seahawk wisely commented "she is not your step daughter, she is your daughter"
And I agree, I would die for her... I put her in my will...
However this is extremely weird... four years ago I was a single never married middle age guy with a house that pretty much did whatever I wanted whenever I wanted.

Now I have this little person... that I hardly know... that I would do anything for.

To make things even more strange... her dad is around... they spend every other weekend together.

Moving into a teens life at 15 I never expected that I would be a big deal to her... pretty much figured I would play along until she went off to college... now they are flying down in August to look at universities, my wife was all "the two of us will go... you don't need to come along.. it will be a mother daughter bonding thing" I suggested that I could come along and help with driving... wife did not have high hopes but said she would ask her... she said "sure"
You could knock us over with a feather.

All that to ask, do you refer to your step children as such or just son/daughter?