[lisa_spyder]

Been through this too.

A very close friend whom I have known since primary school (1972 to be precise) spilt with her husband (who I introduced her to in 1983) last year. Both are godparents to two of our three children as well. They have two gorgeous girls 21 and 18 yo. Both seem to have taken their Dad's side in all of this; which I think is a shame (that they felt they had to take sides at all).

I/we try to stay in contact with both of them. I have been a shoulder to each when necessary; but they are both conscious of not running the other one down to me or Mike as we have been upfront by saying they are still BOTH our friends and most importantly are still BOTH godparents to the kids.

I listen...and don't comment much...I just give them an ear when needed. The kids (14 and 12) give them both lots of cuddles and fuss when they see either of them and I think that helps. We don't hide when have seen the other party either.

And we're not in a position to judge what happened...one just grew apart from the other and morphed into a different person. He is simply broken hearted and confused; she on the other hand is building a new life. Like I said - we just listen and don't comment much. I love them both very much - nothing is going to change that.