[stomachmonkey]

My condolences.

I think you are doing exactly what your Grandfather would have wanted.

Keeping peace within the family is a noble thought but your Uncle has already thrown the gauntlet.

The fact that you have not found a will might be to your benefit.

It would mean everything passes to her or at least be split evenly between heirs.

Your Uncle may get more than he deserves but won't be able to take more than the law allows.

He's got nothing to contest.