[Bill Douglas]

My heart goes out to you. It can be very hurtful. Sometimes family discussions need an independant mediator.

I've got a sister who always has been a bit nuts. For the sake of this discussion we'll call her Julie. Julie was always a bit volitle and behaved like a bad natured 15 year old school girl, well since she was 15. When our Mom died she thought everyone was out to steal her share of the inheritance. We had accountants and lawyers involved, plus I loved my sister, plus I've never robbed anyone - so there was no way she was going to get ripped off. With a bit of stress in her life she totally flipped out and did her best to de-rail any work in winding up family trusts etc. She cost us 100s of thousands, and when I say us that's her included. But her hate couldn't take a break while I was doing this for us and her. Our last comunication was when she found out I'd sent her daughter a birthday present and she told me to fu** off and die.

So don't try too hard, or beat yourself up, over a situation you can't fix. All families have nut cases, and these people are yours.