Quote:
Originally Posted by kaisen
Agreed. And if ND walked away at that point, and then posted the story here we could all revel in how dealers are scum and they didn't live up to their 'deal'.
Instead, he asked about HIS role in what happened next, and suddenly it's blasphemy to say he acted like an ass (his query) by not living up to his 'deal'.
It works both ways
|
It's not blasphemy. I asked the question, I am open to opinions. As many have said, obviously I was at least a little conflicted about it because I thought to even post the thread. I will say that every person I have talked to about it personally (and these are people who I respect and think have pretty high moral and ethical standards) has said they don't think there is an issue since there was no signed contract, no money had changed hands and the dealership had not taken the effort to order the car.
As I said above, I think Seahawk has taken this over the top but that's his issue, not mine.
Obviously some other people have higher standards. That's cool, I know my ethical standards are high and my actions are guided by those standards. Personally I don't think this situation was wrong. That's my opinion. I find it amazing that Nostatic has an issue with people going to Guitar Center to try out guitars. To me that's what places like Guitar Center are there for. If they didn't want you to play the guitars they wouldn't put them on the wall with picks lying next to them and amps plugged in with cords waiting to be plugged in.
Obviously there are gradations to ethical issues. Take sports for instance. I think most people would agree that it is ok to not point out that you were actually out on a play if the ump misses the call. Happens all the time. In fact, it is national news if someone were to actually go to an umpire and say "Actually sir, he did tag me there. I should be out." So, it's ok to not act ethically during a sporting event. On the other hand, almost everyone would agree that taking money out of the offering plate at church is pretty high up on the bad ethics scale. Maybe just a step below stealing social security money from your blind grandmother. I guess the litmus test is what you personally think is ok and then what society would think is ok. Yes I could have handled this situation differently, mainly by not letting myself get pressured into agreeing to a deal I was not really ready to agree to. I will handle it differently in the future. Everyone has to account for their own actions, whether in a car dealership or on an internet forum.