[vash]

sounds like a difficult position.

i have been in a similar situation. i gave the friend money..he insisted it was a loan, but i never saw any payback. here is the rub. people in trouble wont let you into the driver's seat. everything you do is just a bandaid.

in my situation, the very second i said i couldnt help anymore, i became the a-hole. we dont talk anymore, and i have deleted him from all my contact info. you let this person move in, and the very second you need her to leave...instant a-hole. at least that is what happened to us.