[Burnin' oil]

I think that individual grief is universal. I also think that grief is a manifestation of our own loss OR our sympathetic response to another's loss. I feel grief over Lisa's passing not because of my personal loss (minimal), but the effect of her death on her husband and children , i.e., the effect my wife's death would have on me and my kids. Death confirms that we, and those we depend on, will die.