[sammyg2]

Good input guys, thanks and keep it coming.

I was really interested in John's post, and I interpreted it as death reminds us of out own mortality and vulerability and it kinds of scares us. If that interpretation is not right John, please correct.

Supe's post has me thinking too, but I'm gonig to have to read it a few more times and ponder a while.

The reason that "vulerability" thought interested me is it kind of explains why I view death differently that some.
Sure I feel saddened but I usually don't see death as a tragedy.
Maybe my positive expectation for afterlife comes into play, but I don't want to PARF this up so enough of that.

I feel sad for the friends and relatives of someone who passes, but I think it's kind of a sympathetic thing. they're sad so I share a little of the sadness.
But deep down I am not sad for the one who passed at all. Just for others who are sad.

Understanding that and understanding why I don't react as strongly as some will help to make sense of it.

It's kind of like being forced to accept something you really can't accept: you go through denial, sandness, resentment, and eventually acceptance. A whole slew of irrational emotions all balled up.