[vash]

my parents are here with me. my stepdad has type 4 lung cancer. (my father also passed from cancer) he is done with the first rounds of chemo..the brutal rounds. now he is on a "maintenance" dose designed to target the tumor(s) food supply...or something. right before he left home, they got news the tumor grew 1mm..he has radiation treatment waiting for him when he gets back. his spirits are still way up. i think my parents have accepted "whatever". he is eating EVERYTHING. dim sum, seafood..primerib. today, instead of cooking, we ordered up a chinese banquet. doctor's orders..NO COOKING. his hands are numb, and he could easily burn or cut himself. he is a control freak so no way he stays on the sidelines while i do all the heavy lifting in the kitchen. it wouldnt happen so we are eating out. i have a week with him..and i hope to put about 5-10lbs of holiday fat on him.

tomorrow we go to bass pro shops. seems like a great excuse for the wife to let me into that store.

my sister and brother didnt join us..my sister and i simply cant get along. i tried to take the high-road..but my sister wanted to rent a house in san francisco because she felt the "Burbs" where i live was too anemic. my house is tiny, and i wanted my siblings to get into a local hotel. my wife was in school until today, and my sister just didnt listen to the fact that having her commute from a rental house to school daily would be insane. i didnt fight with her, but she got pissed when i told her we wouldnt be participating in the rental home..oh well.

my focus is spending the best quality time with my dad..not clubbing in san fran hitting hooka bars, and wine clubs (dad hits the sack at 9:30 from exhaustion)..i feel bad my sister didnt get it and will miss out on family time. i want to be here when he goes to bed, and be here awake when he gets up. really max out my time.

all in all, i am having a happy thankgiving. my mom did mention moving in with me when it all goes bad. yikes.