I don't want to go into too many details but will outline the situation:
Young lady, college graduate who went on mostly scholarships, good grades in business and good understanding of mathematics, poor understanding of science.
Young man who took out loans, partied, failed some and managed to pass with a Liberal Arts Degree.
(Yep, see the train wreck coming in now don't we....
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So, young lady is attractive but tomboyish. Had very few dates in high school and only went out with two people in college. Raised with Christain values in ULTRA conservative household. Stated ambitions to professional school, took and passed tests, and interviewed to enter some programs after graduation. Shows drive to succeed and wants to have nice things in life and own a few acres of land.
Young man partied and knew lots of girls. Vision of life: Video games, strip clubs, parties, drinking, doublewide on an acre or so, and such things. Lazy, starts to show up to do some work but manages to delay involvement until it is all done. Oh, and then has opinion on how others did it wrong.
No drugs, guns, kids, or other such things involved. Total trainwreck not avoided but maybe some padding?
The second person the young lady dated is above referenced young man. Boy tells girl he loves her. She's never had that before so she falls for it. Does not feel to be real to her but who knows. Starts seperating girl from her family and working to integrate her into his. His mother starts lashing onto her and telling her how she must join their family.
Boy tells girl he'll never leave her, crying (literally with tears) about how he has to have her in his life. Goes on for months. Girl agrees to marry but must wait a year.
She catches up to him in school and they graduate together (two years difference, she finished a year early).
He continues working at the dead end job of loading trailers (forklift and by hand) and finds a job making about $18K per year. He talks her out of graduate school as it is so expensive and he has bills to pay. She drops all educational goals and drops out of programs she was accepted to.
Leaves poor job to apply for lower paying job as teacher's aide ($14K per year).
Boy continues to find time for video games and clubs. Sends girl out to spend time with his sister-in-law so he and his brother can continue in their old ways.
Now, you have a basic story line the question is:
How do break them up before the wedding date? I was told to keep out of it two years ago, now my methods are too late and will only accomplish driving her closer. I was thinking photos of him with strippers?
Open to thoughts!