[speeder]

For all of the guys advocating some kind of "come to Jesus" talk with the guy, or worse yet, getting drunk/naked with him, write that all off as bad advice.

When two people feel the same way about each other, no "special talk" is required. They come together like two inexorable forces of nature, which they are. You cannot alter someone's sexual attraction, (or lack of it), any more than you can alter the laws of physics. Move on and don't degrade yourself further by forcing the guy to reject you. That would piss me off if I was in his shoes.

Getting drunk and having sex with someone you are not really interested in is the world's quickest way to lose touch with someone. It's awkward as all get-up and usually not recoverable from. Especially if there was a one-way attraction going on, as in this case.

You need to temper the advice you get here with reality. This is an online locker room where adolescent men in their 40s and 50s, some of whom have apparently never had a decent piece of tail in their lives, go all ga-ga over you and treat you like a Bond girl or something. Unless you are a stunning woman, (are you?), 5 out of ten guys are not going to be attracted. Out of any group af ten random guys your age, how many do you want to invest the time and commitment to date? If it's more than 3 or 4, I'd be shocked.

I've been single my whole life and at any given time in the last 40 years I've been pursued by women I was not interested in and vice-versa. Unless you are one of those rare people that nearly everyone is attracted to, it's time for some reality and to stop embarrassing yourself. The guy's reasons for passing are totally irrelevant. Completely. Best of luck, you'll find someone out there who thinks you are the shiznit.