Please consider this advice is coming from someone old enough to be your father. That'll make it easier to ignore.
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Originally Posted by tweezers74
I have gone out with other guys. Problem is, yes, the desire for this one particular guy is that strong. The other guys, nothing, zilch.
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There are issues on both sides, here:
Tweezers, it sounds like this guy has become a bit of a challenge for you. Normally you might not be spending this much time and emotion on him, but he has no desire to make any change in your relationship. How long has it been since
that happened?
In a way I understand the 'all or nothing' attitude you seem to be expressing. It can indeed be difficult to move on with your unrequited desires in the back of your mind.
Since he has stated he does not want to move out of the Friend relationship, you have a choice to make: either find a way to accept his friendship for what it is and take what you need out of that relationship or explain your own problem to him and move on.
He won't understand, but this is for you.
Best
Les