[jcommin]

Let me give you a flip side of this. I met a woman a few years ago and we hit it off very well. I like her allot. She broke it off because she didn't feel the same way about me. We are still friends but I will tell you this friendship diminished over a year period. I really got tired of hearing from her every day, what she was doing, asking me how is/was my day. This isn't going anywhere and I kept asking myself why do you keep calling me? I'm getting nothing out of this other than heartache. She liked to talk to me. She shared allot of personal stuff.

There needs to be some magic between two people. I like being with this woman, we have similar interests, we can laugh, talked for hours on the phone, etc. I achieved a closeness with her that I haven't felt in a long time.

I think the definition of magic changes over time. I'm an old guy. I'm not looking for a family or a house whith a white picket fence. It comes down to "what do you want in a relationship?"

Tweezers - he might be afraid. That was the first thought than ran thru my mind with my friend. In my situation, she has been divorced for a long time, she manages quite well on her own. She says she is picky (she is) And in a relationship, you need to share. That's scary.

Only advice I have is to just put the question out there. But before you do, you need to prepare for a positive and negative answer. If it is not what you want to hear, then what? Can you cleanly break this off? Allow yourself time to feel whatever answer you get. If it is a no, it is a loss and you need to process that. If it is a yes, congrats!