[RKDinOKC]

The outside looking in view is that she is using the Mom and X as an emergency fall back security blanket. As incredulous as that may seem. Get involved with her without getting rid of the xbf/mom thing and you will be primed to appear on a episode of Jerry Springer. Her stories were the warning shots fired across your bow.

I assume there isn't a Dad around. It's the Dad's job to run off unwanted suitors. An nobody as run off this failed suitor. Women just don't have the objectivity to guard their daughters. Especially when the Mom doesn't have a Dad around to stop the BS and substitutes the xbf for the Dad for discipline.

She needs to be asked if she wants to marry this X, and to decide yes or no with no option of going back to him later or even remaining friends with this xbf. If she can't definitely answer no, then run. You have to remember most women like to *****, they don't really want a resolution, they just want someone to say, "Awe, there there."

If she does not want to marry him (remember no friends with this guy), SHE needs to tell the Mom it's me or the XBF. SHE needs to stop answering the XBF's calls, Don't let him in the door. If he persists, SHE needs to call the police, and if need be get a restraining order. If the Mom tries to talk to her about him, SHE needs to hang up the phone or leave. Pretty simple really.

The important thing for you is that SHE needs to be the one that resolves the situation. Let her know you like her, but not her situation, and if SHE doesn't resolve it you are gone. You can hang around while SHE resolves it, but STAY OUT OF IT. Don't get drawn in to the fight. Just step back and say, hey me and her are just friends, this is between you three to resolve.