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Originally Posted by Embraer
no, you're not getting it. i hate all of those things, too. but once you do them, you will realize who you are, and what you want. it will change your outlook in life for the better. consider it a rite of passage.
let me guess....you consider yourself a smart guy. you consider yourself to be better than those who go to bars, drink, smoke, party, etc. you're "above" all of that.
i was exactly like you are. from a young age, all though high school...while my buddies were out doing whatever, i was in my garage every night, restoring my first car. the only girl i thought about was Delilah, from Delilah After Dark...because that was the only radio station that came in out in my shop. Then came college....I was socially awkward, so i directed my energy to hobbies. Mountain biking, building stuff, etc. I hated drinking, and considered those who do it, to be common people. I was better than that....or was I? it took some people to loosen me up. and no, i still didnt like the bar scene, but it forced me to meet people, and understand how they are. would i date a chick a found in a bar? no. would talking to her be a learning experience? sure.
once i left college, and found myself not in a readily social scene...guess where i went back to? devoting all of my time to hobbies. while you think it's fine...deep down in side, those hobbies will only keep you happy for so long. i found myself switching hobbies every month or so. it gets old after a while.
the moral of the story...just don't use your hobbies an excuse. i did, and in some ways, i still do. it sucks.
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While I try not to express it and I am no psychoanalyst, I will admit that superiority is probably what I feel inside. It helps me cope with the occasional rejection from my peers or encountering some weirdo who heckles me or whatever.
I am not saying that there are not smart people who do the bar thing, but it is not for me. I don't see it as "normal" or any reason why it should be. I don't consider it a rite of passage. I don't think anything good will come of me going to the bar. Talking with those people, perhaps. But not me going to the bar.
My passion for driving the 911 has waned over these past few years. I like the bike better, and designing car stuff but not actually driving so much. Saving fuel. I drive my BMW slower on the freeway and just enjoy the beauty of the drive. Take all the scenery in. Gives me more time to think.