Actually for me it will just be my Mom. My father and step-father have all gone to greener pastures.
My Mom is now 89 y.o. and still on her own. She lives in her own house in a nice neighborhood about 10 minutes from me. She still drives, shops for herself, plays cards once or twice a week at the local yacht club. Uses email (has a cell phone but doesn't routinely use it). And her health is generally very good.
But.....the day will come when all this will change. My folks were all military so Mom has health insurance - not long-term health though. When asked what he wishes are she said she'd like to continue living in her home as long as possible and have a caretaker/caregiver(s) come there when needed. So that's where we are right now.
I have 2 brothers, a step-sister, and a step-brother....3 living in state and 1 out of state. As yet collectively we have not huddled on how to handle Mom's living arrangements and care when things change. I will probably start a dialogue this year.
I was talking to my neighbor and he mentioned both the Council on Aging and Hospice as 2 organizations which offer information on this subject. I will be researching this going forward so I ca work with my Mom and her family while she is still coherent and we can all have a clear understanding on our plan going forward.
My Mom already has her estate documents updated and on file with an attorney who handles estate planning so I think we're in good shape there but I will probably review with him where we are at some point to make sure we are all on the same page.
Many of you have BTDT and/or will be dealing with this as well.
Here are the 2 links:
Improving the Lives of Older Americans
Home (Hospice Foundation of America)
Good luck with your folks too.....I will check back periodically if I get any more info that might help others......